tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37071965.post6343882334400885902..comments2023-04-13T06:14:30.103-05:00Comments on The Jamaican Adventures of Mamachel: Make Me Over? View from VenusThe Jamaican adventures of mamachelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15200467080277240129noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37071965.post-14709611051335336002009-12-19T11:53:54.664-06:002009-12-19T11:53:54.664-06:00I don't know...I think it all depends what the...I don't know...I think it all depends what the person is trying to change. As we grow older and settle down, we have to change some things, but yeah, if it's more or less trying to mold someone into what we think is perfect, it's a bad idea.<br /><br />The question remains...what exactly is that person trying to change? Habits are usually picked up somewhere, so we are most likely to ask our significant other to change or try to minimize certain things. <br /><br />BUT, if the person is asking to lose weight, or change other physical attributes, or values, then there is definitely going to be issues...and then I would say, "take me as I am"*https://www.blogger.com/profile/10569248404287306578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37071965.post-90205978361480997412009-12-18T19:50:27.127-06:002009-12-18T19:50:27.127-06:00that was a helluva rant. ah who upset yuh now? d...that was a helluva rant. ah who upset yuh now? dem nuh know seh yuh wi rumble pon dem.<br /><br />i agree with the premise of this post, but the one thing i want to add is that some people also grow and change organically as well. some folks may do certain things when they are younger, but find that they stop doing those things as they get older (i.e. drinking the booze, swearing, etc.)<br />i think that if things are being done out of love and respect for the person, then being defensive about it may be a missed opportunity for growth. i have still quite a ways to go in this department, but i sure am trying hard to grow in this area. i don't feel less of a person when someone has constructive criticism, but it's all about discerning motive/attitude/love and checking them against your own value system to determine whether or not it is indeed someone trying to change you or just sharing a value system that could be better for the both of you in the long run.Experience Aurie at Wordpresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17863499545618590890noreply@blogger.com