To Wife or Not to Wife? That is the Question

Hola,
I was recently privy to conversation between two of my male friends. One had started dating a girl for 3 months and decided to make her his girlfriend. However, he had another girl who he was dating for 6 months also and was wondering how he would break it to her. As it turned out he had nothing to worry about as the girl was willing to stay around and play second fiddle (popular trend here in Jamaica). I must be physic I just knew that would be the outcome. I could ask the girl why she decided to stick around but that's a whole other topic. What Mamachel wants to know is why did he keep and continue to keep this girl around even though he clearly does not view her as wife material. Yes, yes, I know the easy sex is a given but doesn't he have a girlfriend? If you can have sex with a girl and chill with her, why cant she be your girlfriend?
Furthermore, why keep her around for six months knowing that there is no hope of the relationship going any further? I mean Mamachel have a lot of questions. What made this new girl more suitable to be with in that capacity? I have a few female friends and acquaintances who are stuck in the "matey" / "other woman" role and they are lovely girls.

What I want to know is ... What makes a girl "good enough to be the MAIN girl"?


Blessed Love,

Mamachel

Relationship Blackout

Hey All,

I know its been awhile but I got sucked into the Facebook vortex and have just recently been able to find my way out. What helped me was a series of island wide blackouts that were taking place. Sitting in my very hot apartment I found myself missing my a/c, telephones, and Internet access, oh did I mention my a/c? Anyways, to distract myself from the noises that were never there before I started thinking, how I've had a couple of blackouts in past relationships. No seriously, just think about it, during a blackout you feel lost, cant find your way, lose access to things you NEED to function, can't see the other person eye to eye, and no matter what you think you hear you have to try and be brave.

See I told you....

What do you do then when you are facing a relationship blackout? I mean when no matter how hard you try you just cannot see the light? Sleep? I think its during these times that you have to find the light that was there before or as we Jamaicans say go "Back to basics". When I have no light I reach for my "Home sweet home" lamp or some candles, plate and a box of matches.. back to basics the things that brought us light before electricity. This my dear friends is what you have to do when facing a black out in your relationship. You need to try and remember why you both fell in love or else the blackout will never end. But let me not end this without saying that sometimes a relationship needs a blackout, just to be able to appreciate the things you have. Let me tell you, no one can appreciate the hum of a fan as much as I do after a blackout. And trust when you and your honey do find the light you will appreciate them a little more...

Blessed Love,

Mamachel