Hey Guys,
Its mamachel once again. I was prepared to write about my interesting weekend and how it opened up my eyes to certain facts of life when I got this email. Folks this one is a doozy, I mean I will try and give him some advice as I can only imagine the confusion he is feeling. Instead of copying the email I have decided to tell the story for him.
One Unfortunate Series of Events
*Justin and all of his girlfriends friends got along great. He liked them and, surprisingly they liked him. Alas, he found out friday that one of them liked him a little more than they should. According to Justin's letter she was very slick in her approach making him feel foolish for being guarded at first,nevertheless he resisted, told her off and eventually left the scene. His conscience is clear, however he's not sleeping because he's now faced with making the decision of whether to tell his girlfriend or not to tell her.
My response to Justin is tell her. If she really appreciated your relationship and knows that you are telling the truth then she will respect you for being honest. However, I feel that it is a Catch 22 as things will never be the same, people are bound to feel uncomfortable in the aftermath. You might want to keep quiet for peace sake, but should she find out in the future it will be almost impossible to explain it.
I need your input.. Do you think Justin should tell his girlfriend or should he keep quiet?
Let mama know....
*names have been changed to protect my compatriots identity.
6 comments:
Well bwoy, it kinda difficult still...if he feels tormented and ting bout it, best way is, and i agree, is to tell his girlfriend bout it still....cuz if he doesnt the friend will keep trying to get wit him, and then bwoy it a go ruff still...cuz woman can b very very persuasive....
The smartest thing for him to do is to tell his girlfriend as soon as possible.
Not soley because it's the right thing to do, but should her "friend" tell her the story first... Wooo boy!
Let's just it may be an *edited* version of the proceedings. Protect your neck my son!
Well Justin...it all depends on da type of girlfriend u r with...some ladies feel dat dem hav 2 defend dem ting an gwaan wid badness 2wards any gurl dat she feels threatened by....in dat casei think u shud not say anythin just yet...cut off da fren dat want 2 be more dan frens an dats dat....ur g/f wud prefer ur actions more dan u sayin dis gurl want u more dan frens...cuz if u tell her she goin 2 go off on annoda tangent and tell u dats y she neva agree wid da whole ting of man havin female frens... and as a result u and all ur female frens will suffer dat u truly not into anythin wid...so, again i say cut off da frenny dat waan u sen on an wen u g/f ask wat happen to so an so after a while, u let her kno y u cut her off and dat will score points for u :)...Den again Justin..if u kno u nuh hav dem bak bone deh fi run my gurl deh and resist temptation, i suggest u tell ur woman b4 certain tings reach yard..Good luck ma fren...
Well..this can be taken from two angles. It may be smart to tell her, in the event that the friend goes to her with a "story" first. Women can be very vindictive, especially when rejected,and when we tell a lie..you will nnneeevvveeerrrr know the truth..hehehe.
Depending on how close she "thinks" she is to this friend, whatever he says won't stand a chance...woman already have the preinstilled notion that men are liars. Men are generally very secretive and would never share such an experience with their spouse...unless!!!.. they feel threatened by the other partner, and covering their tracks..just in case it does get out!
I have been the woman on the side, and let me tell you that the guy would always mention my name to his girl...hehehe...psychology...so if she heard my name..she would think.."ohhh..they're just friends"..well, far from. I think us women have already caught on to this tactic. Soooo ,it is possible she may start to think he is lying when he brings this story to her.
My advise to Justin is to confront the chick, when all three of them are together. This is the only tactic he could use to give his woman some psychological comfort about the situation when it comes out!!!
Jahbee
hmmmmm....just another thought! I think Justin is keeping something from us..hehehehe, because if he really told that girl off good and proper, he would have nothing to worry about. Is it a case where he showed some hesitancy in his rejection, and is worrying that the friend does have something to use against him????
Well justin , i think you shold give your girlfreind a hint as to the type of friends she has. you may not want to tell her outright just like that and if you do then the time and place needs to be right....good luck with this one,,
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