Hey what's up,
I got an email recently asking for advice. It's an age old problem of always wanting the forbidden. She's involved with a married man. Now let's not bullshit around, this isn't exactly moral gray folks, most people would say that she is wrong. But apart from the obvious lets look at this a little deeper. It is popular belief that women who get involved with married men lack confidence, need a father figure or have commitment issues. Cut to the nitty gritty, most of them lack money, need money or have a loan commitment. Plain and simple.
In my friends case she is a beautiful girl, with a nice job, good family who has just sold herself short. Numerous mishaps with the opposite sex has left her jaded, that is the only excuse that she has. This married man buys her gifts and spend so much time with her she's starting to wonder if he really has a wife. But the sad fact is that,yes honey he still has a wife, will more than likely always have a wife and will never leave that wife as most of the money probably in her name.
The fact that she has asked for advice means that she knows that her actions are wrong, no one needs to tell her that. What she needs is the strength to leave this man, to send him away and to make him know that his actions are beyond disgusting. The lifestyle can be addictive and the best of women have fallen prey. Sweetheart you need to think deeply about it and remember that no good meal has ever come from a forbidden fruit.
Blessed Love,
Mamachel '07
2 comments:
HEY MAMACHEL, I AM GLAD U ADDRESS THIS PROBLEM. SAID TO SAY IVE BEEN VICTIM TO DIS SAME SITUATION B4, LUCKILY I HAVE DA STRENGTH TO GET UP N WALK AWAY. IT MAYB HARD AT FIRST BUT IF U WANT TO KEEP UR SANITY N DONT GET EMOTIONALLY CAUGHT UP N HURT. THE BEST THING IS TO LET GO. MARRIED HAS THEIR ADVANTAGES N DISADVANTAGES. BUT DA DISADVANTAGES OUTWEIGHS DA ADVANTAGES. YES HE GIVES U MONEY, GIFTS TREAT U NICE. WINE U DINE AND ALL DAT GOOD STUFF. BUT AT DA END OF DA NIGHT HE HAS TO GO HOME TO HIS FAMILY. HE CANT SLEEP OVA, HE CANT FLAUNT U IN DA PUBLIC AND DO ALL THOSE THINGS THAT U WUD WNAT HIM TO DO. SO FRIEND, WAKE UP SMELL DA COFFEEE. SOMEBODY IS OUT THERE FOR U, JUS HAVENT FOUND HIM AS YET. DONT GIVE UP N GET WEARY. PEACE
I could play Devil's Advocate and say that they are two consenting adults, blah blah, blah...
but in reality, having heard of this scenario before, the best advice I can give is LEAVE QUICK, and the QUICKER the BTTER!!
The longer chica stays the more she will likely begin to "imagine" herself as the wife; might even start to think of the REAL wife as the other woman (TRUST ME! It's happened!)
Bless.
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